![]() it seems like if I am happy 24/7, everything is good. Says I’ve ruined the start of marriage and times with both kids bc of my anxiety. But I am THIS big of an issue for divorce and to be talked down to like this? Bc of what happened 5-6 years ago, during my brothers death and start of marriage, she just resents me. My resume is out everywhere with this shit economy. I know I put her through bullshit bc of my low moods. I know I’m an anxious mess who Wears his heart of his sleeve. I’ve emailed people as of today to get started and likely will be staying a hotel as she doesn’t want to see me. I’m trying to suggest couples counseling and she’s refused mostly. I just can’t agree with that at this point. But she’s getting advice like she doesnt need to be a Martyr for 10 more years and to “run” for the sake of a peaceful home and so the kids can be free. I KNOW I need to chill with work and take care of my wife (not just the kids). I know that shouldn’t matter but I work hard and take pride (even tho that doesn’t matter). We have been able to stack over 25k in saving this year from my work. Her job gives her great WLB so I slack there big time. I take them to their extra curriculars (sometimes with zero break ALL DAY bc of how busy work is). ![]() I work my ASS off and drown myself 5 am- 9 pm. But I am in therapy for myself and with a career counselor. She just text me “I should be at peace when I wake up. My wife is REALLY upset bc she’s sick of taking care of me and for my negative/low attitude except on the wknds. I don’t argue anymore and walk away when things get heated. I tried psychedelics and they worked for a bit for context of me coping with how zonked I’ve been. not only that, people have quit left and right so I’m doing like 3 jobs in 1. However, that comes with long days, quiet/low moods, etc. Then went back to old employer to only then get poached again and now I’m making almost 100k more than before. Then I decided to leave my job bc I got poached to another place for 40k more. ![]() Started to workout during Covid and got really good with anxiety. Once I realized doctors just throw meds at you, I swore off meds and got my shit together for her and my son. I was drinking and was a crazy person (flew off the handle bc I didn’t process his death properly). When we first were married, I was on and off meds (my brother had just passed randomly from the flu). I’ve never even thought of leaving but apparently she has multiple times. I struggle and have struggled with anxiety and depression since day 1. My wife and I have been together for 10 years. PLEASE READ- I need valuable male and female feedback.
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